MIND YOUR OWN BEEZWAX

I don't know.


It's probably one of the phrases I use most. It keeps me out of trouble and in many cases, I don't WANT to know, nor do I NEED to know.

What is it with some people's appetite to KNOW? Does it affect you? Is it your business? Don't you think if you needed to be told, you would have been told?

I had someone ask me a personal question about someone else's marriage yesterday. My answer? "I don't know." Did I know? Yes...I knew. Why did I know? I can definitely tell you it is not because I asked to know. It is because this person confided it me because they needed someone to talk to and knew I'd keep my mouth shut.

I don't ask people personal questions and I don't double-check on them. Example: If you tell me you are having financial problems and tomorrow you post a photo of a new wardrobe or a new piece of workout equipment in your house...I won't "double-check" your previous story to me of financial woes. Why? Because ... here we go ... IT IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS.

I will congratulate you on it. I will support you. But I won't say, "Hey! Guess you must have come into a buttload of money since you got that new treadmill!" For all I know it was given to you by your neighbor who didn't use it anymore.

Regardless, I just don't get it.

Another example, a friend told me recently that someone actually asked her how she was affording to live in the house she's in now. "Did you get left some money?" Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaa? Who asks that? What the hell does where they live and furthermore how she can afford it have to do with you?

So next time, before you ask...before you feel the need to fact-find a previous statement your friend made that now MAY seem contradictory...ask yourself: "Does this have anything to do with me?".

Assume the best, not the worst. And more importantly...pay attention to the goings-on in your own house. If you're not, who is?

Always remember and never forget: People will always believe the worst instead of the best because the worst is just plain more interesting. In these cases, make sure you have at least one great friend who will open up her can of whoop ass on them if they dare try and pry in your business!