I've often told people my blog is a form of therapy for me. And it is.
Today it really is. If I don't actually type this out, I'm going to blurt it out. Very inappropriately. Hurt people's feelers. Everything I don't want to do, but since I'm beyond fed up with this particular area of life...it's gotta come out.
Boundaries Part 1: Language
This boundary thing in general has been a major struggle in my past. And, truth be told, I'm still working on it. I'm sure we are all, given the fact we aren't perfect.
But people stepping over boundaries I'm working hard at putting in place are driving me bananas.
There's been a new batch of moms and their kids who have moved in our apartment complex (God, please make it where I can get out of here sooner rather than later) and let's just say, we don't have a lot in common.
What used to be a fun time at the pool with the kids, has turned into a booze-fest and 'let's see who can use the most foul language very loudly' time. Ladies (and I use that term loosely in this regard) your trashy language makes you look trashy. There's no two-ways about it. There's no gray area. And I'm not alone in this.
Several people, both men and women...young and older...even kids, just looked at these women like, Do you actually think it makes you sound funny? Or younger? Or classy? No...definitely not classy. It sure doesn't make you sound smart. Or cute. And definitely NOT funny.
Yes, kids were around, but even if they weren't. Grow up. There's just no excuse. Saying, "It's just the way I talk" or "It's just who I am" doesn't make it any better.
And don't get me wrong...I use my share of x-rated language. But NOT in public and NOT around kids. On the phone with a friend? Yes. At home when I stub my toe? Absolutely.
As Dr. Nancy says, "Women (and men) at that age who use that language, especially in public, or use words/phrases that are simply inappropriate are lacking in intelligence and maturity. No matter how many degrees they may possess or what they may have received on their SAT, it's a sign of what's to come and a red-flag-warning as to their extreme lack of boundaries." Dr. Nancy's advice: That behavior isn't changing anytime soon...move on. It's a sign of a bigger issue as an adult.
Unfortunately, I'm finding it more and more difficult to keep my kids away from these types of people. I know part of it is just something they will have to deal with. I mean, you can't completely control their environment (nor do I even want to) and being exposed to negatives offers lessons.
And no this isn't because I'm getting older. This boundary extends beyond ages. It has more to do with character. (And some people's lack thereof.)
So can we pass a law to just carry a spray bottle with us and squirt them square in the face when they start this? Kind of like when a dog barks. ::::squirt squirt squirt:::: SHUT IT!
I guess I feel a little better.
Boundaries Part 2: Relationships, is coming up next.
You know...because I'm an all-out EXPERT on this topic. HA!
So much for therapy. I guess today was more of a soapbox.
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